The world needs peace now more than ever . There’s a certain kind of war in virtually every country, be it war against terrorism, religious extremism or even war against famine. The best we can do in the current situation is to try as much as possible to live in peace with one another.
If everyone lived in peace with his or her neighbours, I guess there will be no war or aggression against the other. How can you live in peace with a trouble maker? Should it be an eye for an eye or would you rather be tolerant of some of his excesses and ignore him sometimes?I had observed with rapt attention the manner with which my two daughters ‘fight’ against each other. Given that there’s only a slight age difference between them, they are growing together and learning together.
None knows her left from right and sometimes they struggle for a particular toy until I come to separate them. None of them wants to surrender to the other and they both want to be winners.
This has been going on since the little girl turned one. Even when I manage to get similar toys for them, the bigger girl wants to have both. I tried to explain to her that she can’t have all the toys to herself as her sister also needs to play. Perhaps, she is too young to understand my explanations and instructions.
This trend continued until one day, the younger girl suddenly decided not to fight back. She quickly surrendered the toy in question whenever big sister came for a fight. She moved on to the next toy without a word and continued playing. Few minutes later, big sister would lose interest in the previous toy and go for another and then she can go back and pick it.
I watched with delight at the positive result it produced. I no longer have to give an endless speech on peace before they could play in peace. When the older girl noticed the change in her sister’s character, she became calm and would be the first to offer toys to her. The atmosphere suddenly changed to a peaceful one and they could play in peace.
I guess that the world would be a better place if we emulate the aforementioned example. Giving in doesn’t mean cowardice but simply says you want peace and not war. This principle will go a long ways in creating the much needed peaceful atmosphere in the society.
Have ever had an encounter with a quarrelsome person?
What was your solution?
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