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Take Responsibility; Lesson From Kids

If there is any body in the world that is not afraid of taking responsibility for his/her actions, it’s a kid. Ask him hours later (as much as he can remember) who did this or that and he is not afraid to say ‘it’s I’ even though he stands to be punished.

It’s either kids don’t want to be afraid or that it’s in their nature not to be afraid. They accept their actions or inactions in good faith without saying it’s this or that person that made them to do what they did.

Kids just tell you the whole truth not minding the consequences. Perhaps, this is one of the reasons it’s easier to correct a kid than an adult. Adults try to find an excuse to almost everything that goes wrong. For instance, an unsuccessful businessman might want to blame his woe on the scarcity of clients or economic crisis rather than acknowledging that his (poor) decisions might have contributed to the failure.

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People are also quick to blame their backgrounds, families or parents for the challenges they face in life. Wouldn’t it be better to first of all look at yourself and see where the problem lies or at least acknowledge that you might have contributed to it. Or simply say like the innocent kid, ‘I did it’. This helps you look at the root cause of the problem rather than running around in a circle.

Excuses do nothing but compound the problem and eventually leave it unresolved. It will be a lot better if we called a ‘a spade a spade’ and go about finding a solution instead of creating more by the unwillingness to accept our mistakes. Never form a habit of finding more excuses than solutions.

Look the problem in the face and say to yourself that you will find a way out. This not only solves the problem faster but also prevents future occurrences. In the same manner as with a child when he/she crosses the boundary and doesn’t blame the sibling for what was done but owns up. It’s most unlikely that such a child after been chastised will repeat the same mistake. On the other hand, a child who cleverly passes the blame to another person is more likely to commit the same offence again and again.

Don’t be afraid to admit you don’t know it all. Only then will your heart be open to learn, consciously or unconsciously.

To be a better person, learn to accept responsibility of what you have done despite that people might think you’re foolish or unreasonable. That’s the best way to becoming a success story.